Your divorce does not need to be nasty

| Mar 3, 2019 | Uncategorized |

When you know that your marriage is coming to an end, you have a lot of worries. You may be concerned about potential conflicts and arguments. A contentious split can wreak havoc on your emotions and finances–not to mention how it may impact your children. 

However, contrary to popular belief, divorce does not need to be a nasty process. Believe it or not, you can divorce your spouse amicably and peacefully. There is no guaranteed, step-by-step process for a respectful divorce, but here are some guidelines to stop your breakup from getting unnecessarily ugly. 

Understand why your divorce is happening without placing blame

As the saying goes, it takes two to tango. While your spouse may contribute to the divorce, he or she is not the sole reason. If you play the blame game, you are setting yourself up for a whirlwind of fighting and accusations. Instead, consider all the other factors, such as stressors, life changes and skill defects. Once you understand the big picture, you will be less inclined to stir up conflict with your ex. 

Think about and rectify your mistakes

Your marriage and divorce can teach you a lot of important life lessons. It is easy to place the responsibility completely on another person. However, it is healthier and more productive to be introspective and your role in all of this. Focus on how to be a better person and grow from this experience.

Find someone to talk to about your emotions

It is an inevitable fact of divorce that you will feel anger, guilt, sadness, shame, hurt and fear. If you do not have an outlet for these emotions, you will only bottle them up until they explode. Talk through these difficult emotions with someone you trust–whether it is a close friend, family member or therapist. You need a confidant to keep your emotions at bay and make rational decisions during your divorce.