Depending on your relationship with your ex-spouse, co-parenting may not be easy, and it may become especially difficult during the holiday season. Whether you have or are seeking full or shared custody, you want to create the best possible environment for the kids, which in many cases is spending time with both parents.
Having a specific plan for the holidays can be quite helpful. There are a few things you should consider in your co-parenting plans through the holidays.
Know the decree
It is important that parents know their rights in accordance with the custody agreement. If the parenting plan or court-appointed custody determination provides a stipulation for holidays, it may be necessary for parents to defer to this document first. However, if both parties agree, it is possible to make special arrangements.
In general, proper co-parenting requires compromise. During holidays, a time mostly attributed to family activities, compromise is vital to creating a happy and healthy environment for the children. Dealing with divorce as a child is already a confusing and tough experience. Therefore, spending time with both parents in happy environments may be critical to creating and maintaining their stability. Parents who understand this and can put aside their differences and desires to focus on what is best for the children can work together and foster a positive and enjoyable experience.
As two separate households, parents may not always think to coordinate gifts, but this can be quite helpful. It not only aids in making sure that neither party gets the same thing, but working together also decreases the need to outdo each other, which can have negative effects in the future. Parents should also avoid guilt gift-giving and provide their children with a normal number of gifts.
These are just a few tips to help get you in the right direction. Take some time to consider your situation, and if possible, consult with your ex-spouse so you may determine the best choice for you and your family.