When you are in the middle of a divorce, it can seem like everything is out of control. The future that you had planned is suddenly changing, and it can be easy to get sucked into a cycle of bitterness and resentment towards your ex. If you want to minimize conflict and maintain control over your life and divorce, mediation may provide the solution that you have been looking for.
Mediation allows separating couples to avoid court and instead hammer out the details of their divorce in a neutral, mediated environment. According to the American Bar Association, it is generally a shorter process than a litigated divorce, and this means it is also less expensive. How can mediation help you maintain control, too?
1. Prevent narrative from spiraling
You might be concerned that your ex will use court as an opportunity to give a narrative of your divorce that does not align with yours. Divorce tends to be messy, and in an unmediated environment, untrue narratives can very easily propagate. Mediation, on the other hand, allows both parties to focus on the details that really matter without letting editorial context claim control.
2. Rely on the objectivity of a mediator
One of the greatest benefits of mediation is the role provided by the mediator to prevent conflict from emerging and ensure all parties receive fair treatment. This prevents any one party from overpowering the situation, and it allows you to maintain control over the outcome of the details you are discussing in the mediation.
3. Manage the divorce process
When a divorce goes to court, it is often stressful to relinquish control over your future to so many people who are unfamiliar with you and your goals. Without the involvement of a court and judge, you can more easily manage the process of your divorce and get what you want out of it. Fewer people involved makes it easier to maintain control and avoid the complications caused by multiple parties.